Frequently asked questions

That depends on your situation and goal. Rough guidelines: communication issues 4–6 sessions; recurring arguments 6–10 sessions; after infidelity 8–16 sessions; separation support 4–12 sessions; single pattern work 3–6 sessions. You're never locked in: we set a direction together during the free intro call and evaluate along the way, so you always know where you stand.

That's a common concern, but you don't need your partner to begin. Sometimes working solo is enough: for your own clarity, your own calm, your own choices. You work on your own patterns, at your own pace. What happens with the relationship afterwards is not yours to carry alone. Let's discuss this personally.

No, this is coaching, not therapy. No medical framework, no diagnosis, no endless analysis. Instead: working on what you want to build, with tools and exercises you can use today. Usually in 4 to 12 sessions. If you need more than coaching, I'll say so honestly.

The intro call is free and without obligation (by phone, around 15 minutes), that doubles as the intake. If you prefer a trajectory of several sessions, we discuss the options during that free intro call. Rates are on the contact page.

Follow-up sessions usually last 60 to 90 minutes. The exact duration depends on your situation and what is discussed that day. We discuss this beforehand.

Yes, that can be arranged. Video sessions via Zoom or Teams work well and are great for many couples. Especially if you don't live in the same city, or if childcare is difficult, online is a practical option.

That is a perfectly legitimate outcome. Relationship coaching isn't necessarily about 'staying together', it's about clarity and making choices from awareness, not from inertia. If separation is the healthiest choice, I help you do it with respect and care.

Usually we can schedule an introduction call within a week of your contact. Feel free to reach out directly and we'll see what's possible.

Absolutely. What is discussed in coaching stays in coaching. You can feel safe addressing difficult topics, that's precisely what is valuable for the process.

Yes, absolutely. You don't need to be on dating apps to work on yourself. Many people come precisely to understand why things keep going wrong, or to process that something "was never official" but still hurt. Even if you've just come out of a situation where you felt stuck, whether it was a situationship , a near-relationship, or a recurring pattern, it can help to look at that honestly.

No, often this is THE moment. The confusion is greatest: it wasn't a "real" relationship, so why does it feel like this? It's precisely situations that were never official but were full of meaning that can reveal patterns you keep encountering. It's not about how serious it "officially" was, but how it felt for you. That's something you can work on meaningfully, even if the outside world doesn't think it's "that bad".

Ghosting hurts because it gives no closure. In coaching we look at what happens to you when someone disappears: do you take it personally, chase after them, or shut down before things go wrong again? We work on recognising your boundaries, communicating clearly what you want, and not losing yourself in the process. Not to change the other person, you don't have that control, but to break your own patterns.

Yes. People who always say yes while feeling no often recognize a pattern of people-pleasing . It feels safer to keep the other person happy than to set a boundary, but in the process you lose touch with yourself. In coaching we explore where that pattern comes from and practise, in small steps, setting boundaries: not harshly, but clearly. You don't need to become "better" at saying no, you become better in knowing what you actually want.

It happens to more people than you might think, and it doesn't mean your relationship is "done". Sometimes falling for someone else is a signal that you're missing something you're not looking for in yourself or in your current partner: attention, excitement, recognition, space. In coaching we explore what that attraction is telling you, without you having to draw immediate conclusions about your relationship. Sometimes space opens up to talk about that need with your current partner. Sometimes it becomes clear that something has been missing for a while. Both are equally legitimate.

It depends on many factors: was it a one-time event or a longer period, are there children involved, how does the partner who was unfaithful respond, and how do you both look at it. A rough guideline: between 8 and 16 sessions, spread over a few months to half a year. Full "recovery" isn't a fixed end state, it's more about rebuilding trust, step by step, with honesty and steadiness. More about the approach is on the /after-infidelity page.

That's one of the most heard sentences after infidelity, and it's a sign that forgiving and forgetting are two different things. Forgiving is a conscious choice not to keep the other person (or yourself) stuck in revenge or resentment. Forgetting is about the memory itself, and that usually doesn't disappear. In coaching we work on what forgiving concretely means for you, and how you deal with the images and feelings that keep coming back. That's work, not a quick fix. The approach is on /after-infidelity.

Yes, you can. Individual coaching is fully valid, you don't need your partner to begin. Sometimes it's precisely valuable to sort out your own doubts, grief, and questions first before you can move forward together. What happens with the relationship afterwards is not yours to carry alone. We're happy to discuss this personally in a free intro call. For the broader approach after infidelity you can also visit /after-infidelity.