Always the wrong one, or always bailing out?
Dating coaching is for you as a single. Not to fix you, but to understand why dating keeps stalling at the same point, and what you need to break through. A partner should add something beautiful to your life. That starts with understanding what you bring yourself.
Your partner doesn't need to join. This is individual coaching.
Your story, your pace
Sometimes the first step isn't talking together, but first getting clear about what you want yourself. Who are you in a relationship? What are you carrying from earlier experiences?
I give you that room. No pressure, no expectations. Just you, a safe place, and the time to figure out what works for you. A partner is meant to add something to your life. Knowing what you actually want is where it begins.
What is dating coaching?
Dating coaching is individual coaching for those who are single and find dating heavy or confusing. It's not about tricks or profile texts, but about the patterns underneath dating: who you fall for, when you pull away, and what stops you from making real contact.
Many people recognize this: after every disappointing date, the same question. Was there simply no spark, or was I behind my own mask again, facing the other person's? That distinction is hard to untangle alone. Together we look at it without judgement.
This is coaching, not therapy. I ask questions, challenge you, and help you see your own patterns clearly. We go through your "love resume" and look together at why it isn't going the way you'd want. The change comes from you; I help you find the direction.
My approach
I don't assume what you should want. Some people are looking for a lasting relationship; others first want to understand why they keep ending up in a situationship . Both are valid. We start with your question, not with an ideal picture.
We work with concrete situations: a date that seemed good and still went nowhere, a pattern in which you're always the one who gives too much, or the fear that rises the moment something threatens to get serious. We explore what happened and what came up inside you, so you see it coming next time.
Recognising patterns
We map out who you fall for and when you pull away, so it stops being chance and becomes a choice.
Chemistry or old fear?
Learning to feel the difference between real attraction and a familiar, unsafe pattern dressed up as a "spark".
After a loose relationship
Space to process something that was never "official" but still hurt, and to come out of it wiser.
What can you expect?
A trajectory begins with a free, no-obligation intro call where you tell me what's going on and we see whether it clicks. Only then do you decide. Session length, frequency, and evaluation work the same for every trajectory. You'll find more on the page about my approach.
Between sessions you'll get small reflections or assignments to take along, for example deliberately doing something differently on a next date and noticing what that does to you. That's often where the real lesson sits: not in knowing, but in recognizing.
Who is dating coaching for?
Dating coaching is here for singles who notice dating keeps stalling at the same point, or who, after a breakup or situationship, first want to understand themselves before starting again.
Many singles recognize this:
- You keep falling for the same type, and it keeps ending the same way
- You pull away the moment something threatens to get serious
- You don't know whether it's "no spark" or your own fear
- You've just come out of a situationship and want to come out of it wiser
- You keep giving too much while dating and lose yourself
- You want to know yourself better before entering a new relationship
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Pricing
A first call is free and without obligation. Only then do you decide whether to continue.
By phone, around 15 minutes. We see whether it clicks and what you need. This doubles as the intake, no separate fee.
- Individual session 60 minutes €125
- Individual session 90 minutes €149
- Session for couples 90 minutes €169
Online sessions also available
From your own space, no travel time. All you need is a quiet room and a stable internet connection. Price and duration are the same as an in-person session. In Dutch or in English.
Prefer a trajectory of several sessions? We discuss the options during the free intro call, so you know where you stand beforehand.
Relationship coaching is generally not reimbursed by health insurance. Payment is made upfront via a payment request or bank transfer.
Sessions on location: €25 + €0.25/km, discussed transparently in advance.
Ready to break your pattern?
Call or message for a free, no-pressure intro by phone.